By making victims of ourselves, we accuse and abuse other people. We make them out to be heartless victimizes, and THAT is a very victimizing thing to do to them. We display ourselves to suffering at their hands. And we evade acknowledging our mistreatment of them by accusing them of mistreating us. Though motivated more by fear of them than malice, we nevertheless can do them damage.
You can see the violence in this. When the violence is not outwardly expressed in acts and in words, it is perpetrated in the mind and heart. Violence is a mark of the self-betraying way of life.
C. Terry Warner, "Bonds That Make Us Free"
